I am a proud feminist. Go Alice Paul! The remarks about female supervisors in lowly positions that lack power is cogent. As I said before, some fields are female ghettos. These industries are very low-paying. Women cook for the minimum wage, men become chefs and make vast sums. Remember Julia Child was denied admission to the Cordon Bleu b/c she was female. I don't know how much to generalize from my experience. Social forces are obvious. I would cry so hard in high school b/c I'd be out with female friends who would dump me immediately to go off with any casual male. Advance arrangements could not be planned and made b/c a man might call. They view their time with me as worthless and demeaning. Once I graduated from high school and left my working class ghetto, I made it to the Big Apple and Barnard College, the women's college at Columbia.
Barnard boosted female self image. Margaret Mead was an active alumnae. These young women would never break plans with another woman to date a man. Men had to know their proper place. They felt very worthwhile compared to men. Men were loved passionately but time was made for studies, career and female friends. What a difference! We demonstrated for abortion rights. When abortion was illegal, dorm funds were set up. Everyone would money in a common pot so that an unplanned pregnancy meant either a sympathetic Park Ave. gyn or a trip to Europe. Sometimes I thought I would pulled apart with the contrasts in my life. We made up class conflicts to take courses at Columbia but Columbia men flocked to our side of Broadway, too.
Raised in the Witnesses, it was a marvel to see sexy, smart women practicing their professions. Betty Friedan was a constant as was Bella Abzug. We adored Sylvia Plath and Virginia Wolf. Erica Jong graduated a few years earllier. We were heady with power. I rejoiced. Those Witnesses males could f themselves. Elaine Pagels, the most respecteds scholar on Gnosticism, explained how God always had sons of God in the Bible. Son of Man was the messianic term that Jesus used. When she pointed out that no daughters of God were in the Bible, I said, F. God. and started praying to Our Mother.
This was normal for most of the students. It was good news to me. Of course, we discovered as Margaret Mead predicted that you can't have it all at one time. It must be staggered. Women bear children. Men don't. It is commonplace today. I felt as though as I were in a charmed land. It was precisely what I needed after the long siege of abuse from the Witnesses. Yes, I can study and be loved. Protest was encouraged. Yes! Alleulia. I never had to sit and dumb down. I was worth a female friend not cancelling plans or having an actual tantrum b/c she was with me Most men like brainy women. It is the Witnesses who are abnormal freaks, not me.
Life isn't perfect. If I stayed in the Witnesses, I never would have known happiness. They kill human spirit. Vive human spirit!